One of the most personal and intimate elements you can add to your wedding is writing and reading your own wedding vows. It’s sweet, romantic, and it may make your guests shed a few tears (which isn’t necessarily a bad thing). We know that the task isn’t as easy as putting pen to paper, so we are here to give you a few tips that will hopefully make things easier for you!
Write Down Notes About Your Relationship
Every good project didn’t start out with all of the pieces. You have to start out with a foundation before you can build up, so this is actually a very important step! Make bullet notes, jot down thoughts as they come to you, or make a list. Reflect back on your journey together and write down anything that sticks out to you or that holds a special place in your heart. Your vows should embody the core of your relationship and how you’ve evolved together as a couple, so laying out all of the memories as bullet points and then building off of them can really be beneficial.
Reminisce With Your Partner
Finding a quiet place to sit and talk with your partner about all that you’ve been through together can help spark memories, feelings, and thoughts about your relationship that you may want to add into your vows. Take a trip down memory lane, share a few laughs, shed a few tears, and allow that time to serve as inspiration. Not only that, but it will bring you both closer together, which is a great thing when it comes to the chaos of wedding planning.
Add in the Good and the Bad
Every relationship has struggles and not only goes through the good times, but the bad times as well. You don’t have to give details (that’s between you and your boo), but make sure to add in that what you’ve been through together has only made you stronger as a couple, that you’re all in during the good and bad times, and that you will always be there even during the lows. Love is an amazing thing, but the reality of it all is that love is a rollercoaster and marriage means that both of you will be buckled-in together during the highs and lows throughout life.
Speak Towards The Future
Not only should you bring up your past together, but you should also talk about the future you have envisioned together. Mention the dreams you have together and the things you want to accomplish hand in hand. You wedding day marks you first day together in the start of a new phase in life, so make sure to capture that elements in your vows and assure your partner how you feel moving forward.
Don’t Think About Other People
The moment you say your vows is all about you and your fiancé. If you’re saying them during the ceremony, then yes you will have plenty of eyes on you while you’re doing so, but don’t let that cloud what you really want to say. Don’t leave anything out that you absolutely want to say because you only have one chance! Furthermore, if you’re getting help writing your vows from family or friends, make sure that whatever you’re writing down is from your heart and how you truly feel. Don’t get us wrong, we love a good writing session with the ones we love, but this day is about you and your partner and your vows should reflect that.
Now that you’ve got a good place to start, let’s get those vows written! Remember, write from the heart and everything will be just fine. This is such a wonderful and special time for you and your partner, so try not to stress too much. You got this!